Men
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Prayer
“Go before the tabernacle to establish with Jesus a simple and daily rapport of life. With the same naturalness with which you seek out a friend... in that same way go before the tabernacle to seek Jesus. Make of Jesus your dearest friend, the most trusted person, the most desired and the most loved.”
Jesus’ disciples pleaded with him: “Teach us how to pray” (cf. Lk 11:1–4). Jesus responds with that most profound of prayers, the Our Father. Just as Jesus taught his disciples how to pray, so must we, who continue the life and work of Jesus, teach our people how to pray. If we are to teach them how to pray, it presumes, of course, that we priests are men of prayers. People expect us to be so. I believe that we, too, expect ourselves to be so. Sadly, this is sometimes not the case; sometimes we are not really men of prayer.
It is true that we are busy about many things. It is no wonder that we have bred a society of workaholics. Are we happier because of it? Certainly not. There is more anger, frustration, and unhappiness in our very materially wealthy society than ever before. If a priest has no time for personal prayer then he hasn’t time to be a priest.
Why don’t Priests pray more?
It is easy to admonish priests to pray more and they dutifully acknowledge that they should. There are, no doubt many reasons why we not pray more. It was already noted that our priests are infected with the obsessive activism of our culture. They measure themselves the amount of work they do. Priests are not immediately and directly reinforced for praying. The opposite is usually the case. Another reason some priests do not pray privately is that they afraid of what will surface. This might sound odd. When we sit quietly in private prayer, we eventually face ourselves and the living God. Some priests do not pray because they are afraid that the personal hurts and pains buried in their own hearts will surface. They will have to face themselves; it is no accident that the spiritual masters have said the spiritual journey begins with self-knowledge. But facing ourselves is essential for a deep inner healing. The spiritual journey cannot begin in earnest without it.
It is sad note that a number of priests have an inner conviction that the good news applies to everyone else but themselves. Priests are great at preaching good news to others, but we have difficulty truly believing that the message of forgiveness and compassion applies to us too. Once priests recognize and truly take in the good news for themselves, it can be very exciting. They experience for themselves our wonderful, loving, and forgiving God. We priests can mouth words in a homily about how merciful and compassionate God is, but if we have not experienced it for ourselves, the words are hollow. When we are touched personally by Jesus, we know for ourselves what he has been trying to tell us and we are excited by what we have been given. This is a wonderful moment. It is good news that we spontaneously want to share.
A Taste for Prayer
Probably the most significant reason why priests, or other people, do not pray more is because they have not yet developed a taste for prayer. That is, they have not yet developed a personal taste for God. We spend a great deal of time training our seminarians in minor seminary, philosophy and theology. This is a good thing. We even teach them about spirituality. This too is important. But we typically spend a minimal amount of time teaching them to pray. We will need to build on these initial religious experiences and fervour in order to develop solid men of prayer.
As we grow into a deeper maturity in prayer, the priest will develop a familiarity with God, a kind of relaxed friendship. Saint Teresa of Avila is a fine guide in this. She spoke of becoming friends with God and about prayer as a conversation between friends. When we come to this familiarity with God, we naturally lose any neurotic fear of God while maintaining a holy fear of his awesome power. In such conversations we do not always expect to receive sensible consolations. Rather, merely being in the presence of God brings a sense of inner peace. What happens in the soul of the friends of God who regularly immerse themselves in prayer is hard to describe certainly the words “peace,” “rest,” and a “quiet joy” come to mind. The spirit expands and the eyes seem filled with light. Rather than fearing such divine encounters, we welcome them with delight.
Beginning to Pray
There is no one right method of prayer. A helpful way to begin with someone, including priest, who does not know how to pray is to suggest that the individual sit in a sacred place, such as a church, and honestly share one’s inner feelings and thoughts with God. If you are happy, tell God what is making you happy; if sad, share your sorrow. In other words, tell God exactly what you would tell your closest friend. While God already knows our innermost thoughts and feelings, the act of sharing develops trust and openness to God. It opens the heart to God and the openness allows divine grace to pour in.
It is particularly important to share one’s negative emotions with God, emotions such as anger, frustration, fear, and shame. We have a wonderful role model in Saint Teresa of Avila who said to God, “If this is how you treat your friends, it is no wonder you have so few” she was not loath to express her anger to God.
Praying the Scripture
The priest should have a special love of the sacred scriptures and pray them daily. If he is to be the people a unique presence of Jesus, he must tale on the mind and heart of Christ. They holy scriptures are an essential and foundational part of this presence. They embody the living heart and mind of Jesus. The priest ought to have a daily dose of this living word of God. By daily chewing on the word of God, in meditation and prayer including the Liturgy of the Hours, and by his own daily reception of the body and blood of Christ, the faithful priest will be slowly transformed. He will take on the heart and mind of Christ and, in fact, will truly become a living presence of Christ.
Concluding Remarks
The priest who does not pray privately and does not feed on the word of God will find that the fruits of his labours will be limited and that his ministry will lack sufficient depth. I would not want to reduce every personal problem to a lack of spirituality; there is an intimate connection between them. When our spiritual lives suffer and begin to deteriorate, the rest of our lives are not far behind. The ministry of prayer is a foundational work of the priest. We begin our service to the people by praying for them.
People want their priests to be men of prayer. They want someone who is in touch with this wonderful God of ours. They want a man whose eyes and face radiate God’s grace and whose heart is at peace. They want a priest who will love them and forgive them, just as God does. He can only do this if he is filled with the Spirit. He can only do this if he is a man of prayer. Praying is an act of faith. It is a simple statement that God is in charge, not us. Prayer is also an important way that God fills us with his divine presence. Now we hunger for God all the more. People want such men of prayer and men of God. We, ourselves, want to be such men. We begin and end this journey in prayer because our journey begins and ends with God.
(Thanks to Fr. Stephen J. Rossetti of his book the joy of priesthood)